So, I do online dating for a good reason. People in real life aren’t usually socially intelligent enough to know how to respond to a stranger approaching them at the grocery store. That takes guts, and I’ve done it plenty of times. But it doesn’t work. So, I also do online dating, which I actually prefer (being a photographer has it’s perks!) 😉
According to Abraham Maslow, and his “Hierarchy of Needs” love and intimacy is different from the more fundamental physiological needs such as food, water, and sex.
Love only comes into the picture a couple levels up the Hierarchy of Needs pyramid.
“The human body cannot function optimally if physiological needs are not satisfied. Maslow considered physiological needs the most important as all the other needs become secondary until these needs are met.”
Is it True that without sex and reproduction, we cannot survive or have a sense of intimacy? I know that St. Paul used to preach that it is actually better NOT to get married and have kids. Why?
1 Corinthians 7:38
“So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.“
Waiiiit! Just a moment St. Paul. I’m over 40 years old. There aren’t any virgins my age…
That’s why Jesus also says something about divorce in Matthew 19:9-10
9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
10 The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
This is ALL of this is bull… according to Maslow.
However, according to Bella, it’s science! lol.
If the desire for love and intimacy persists despite the need for reproduction going unfulfilled, physiological needs can still be met with an alternative approach such as surgical castration. It’s NOT a “Strong Delusion” as those on the far right would say. It’s a choice. Ever since the days of King David, eunuchs served significant roles in king’s inner circles.
If a man cannot fulfill the duties of raising a family, does that mean he cannot find fulfillment in other areas of his life? No, by reconfiguring your idea of what it means to be successful and happy we are led by the Spirit to be content with what is right. Does it matter if I don’t have children? Not really, I don’t believe like the Jews do, that salvation comes from lineage and acceptance into God’s timepiece, Israel.
Even Moses wasn’t buried in Israel, so does that mean Moses didn’t go to Heaven? No, most scholars would agree that New Testament proves that when Moses appears with Elijah during the Transfiguration of Jesus, which some interpret as a sign of his exalted status.